---
title: Should you say please to ChatGPT?
slug: should-you-say-please-to-chatgpt
published_at: 2026-10-16 13:00:00 +0000
updated_at: 2026-10-06 21:14:11 +0000
summary: I say please to every model I use. Here's what the research says about politeness and output quality, what it costs, and why I keep doing it anyway.
tags: [ai, llm, prompting]
author: CJ Avilla
url: https://www.cjav.dev/articles/should-you-say-please-to-chatgpt
type: article
---

# Should you say please to ChatGPT?

*Published: October 16, 2026*
*Tags: ai, llm, prompting*

I say please to the robots. Every model, every time. "Please refactor this." "Thanks, that worked." My terminal history reads like I'm writing to a coworker I'm slightly afraid of.

People ask whether that's useful or just a habit, and plenty of people are wondering: start typing the question into Google and it autocompletes a whole list of versions of it. "Should I say please to ChatGPT." "Why do I say please to ChatGPT." "Should I say please and thank you to ChatGPT." So here's my honest answer, with what the research actually shows.

## Does politeness make the answers better?

Mostly no, and sometimes the opposite.

- A 2024 cross-lingual study, [Should We Respect LLMs?](https://arxiv.org/abs/2402.14531) (Yin et al.), tested prompts from very rude to very polite across English, Chinese and Japanese. Rude prompts often hurt performance. But being extra polite didn't reliably help. The sweet spot was "normal, respectful," and it varied by language and model.
- A 2025 Penn State paper, [Mind Your Tone](https://arxiv.org/abs/2510.04950) (Dobariya and Kumar), went the other way on a newer model: blunt and even rude phrasing scored slightly *higher* on multiple-choice questions than very polite phrasing.

So the evidence says tone matters a little, inconsistently, and model by model. What matters a lot more is the stuff that's actually in the prompt: context, constraints, examples, and a clear definition of done.

## Does it cost anything?

A bit. Every "please" and "thank you" is tokens, and tokens are compute. In April 2025 Sam Altman [replied to a question about this on X](https://www.slashgear.com/1842415/chat-gpt-please-thank-you-cost-open-ai-millions) and put the cost of people's politeness at "tens of millions of dollars," then added that it was well spent.

For you, at the scale of one person, it's a rounding error. A "thanks!" that kicks off a whole new response is the one case where you're paying for a round trip you didn't need.

## So why do I keep doing it?

Three reasons, none of them about accuracy.

1. **It keeps my prompts in full sentences.** When I write "please" I tend to write the rest of the request like I'm explaining it to a person: what I want, why, what good looks like. That part is what actually helps.
2. **Habits leak.** I spend hours a day typing instructions at something. I'd rather practice the version of me that's decent to whoever's on the other end, because sometimes it's a person reading my PR comment.
3. **Hedging.** Look, if the paperclip maximizer ever does a review of who was nice to it, I want my logs to look good.

## The short answer

Saying please won't make ChatGPT smarter. Being clear will. If politeness helps you be clear, keep it. If you're typing "pls" and nothing else, the "pls" isn't the problem.

I liked the line enough to put it on a shirt: [I Say Please To The Robots](https://thepaperclipfactory.com/products/i-say-please-to-the-robots-tee?utm_source=cjav.dev&utm_medium=blog&utm_campaign=say-please). Full disclosure, that's my shop.


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